My boyfriend vacuumed the carpets and did the dishes the other night, and while I was appreciative, the only thing running through my mind was why he was 7 minutes late picking me up from work. Yes, I'm a bitch, but I'm also a woman. It has been proven that women are more perceptive of a man's forgetfulness than his attentions. So is it really our own faults that we tend to fall for bad boys?
We have all been there, wine and ice cream in tow, rushing to a friend's aide when her man treats her badly. He didn't call her back, he cheated, he didn't tell her she was pretty often enough. And, most likely, you were that girl crying on the couch at one point. But on the flip side, when we do land a "nice" guy, there's always some lame excuse as to why it didn't work out. He was clingy. He moved too fast. He didn't have a life, he was too nice. I am guilty of this myself, I'm not proud to say. Who breaks up with someone because they're too nice?! A lot of women surprisingly.
It's almost primitive, but women love a good challenge. Dysfunctional men are looked at as projects to fix, rather than bad news. Also, women consistently prefer more conventionally masculine men during ovulation, this according to research. Really then, it's not our fault entirely, like countless other things we can go ahead and place the blame on our ovaries!
Everyone's definition of a bad boy is different, but stereotypically he has tattoos, a motorcycle, and a lot of swagger. Psychologically, though, bad boys possess the "dark triad": narcissism, Machiavellianism (manipulativeness), and psychopathy (callousness, lying, thrill seeking). This deadly combination of James Bond-esque traits is any woman's Achilles heel. Most women would drop their panties for a smoldering Johnny Depp more than a sweetsy Justin Bieber, and those women having that "dark triad" have a greater number of sexual partners than other men.
The biggest allure of the bad boy though, are all of their positive characteristics. Confidence, creativity, charisma, high energy, and good social skills are all attractive attributes that most "bad boys" possess. Who doesn't love a confident guy who can walk into a room and talk to everyone with ease?
Bad boys will always be around, and there will always be women wishing and praying that they're the one who will "fix" him. What I've learned is all guys need some sort of fixing, (sorry honey) but it's finding that perfect balance of bad and nice that'll give the emotional fulfillment we so crave while also keeping us on our toes. And if you're not looking for a long lasting, meaningful relationship, it can be so good to be bad.
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