Yes, Go To Bed Angry!

They say never going to bed angry is the golden rule to a good relationship.I say it's the gold plated rule. Going to bed before resolving things may leave you feeling anxious, unsettled, and nervous, but it also gives both you and your partner a time to step away from whatever argument you're having and think to yourselves. Is this something worth fighting over? Has this been blown out of proportion? Is standing my ground worth losing valuable time that could be better spent loving my partner? These are all thoughts and solutions that are best thought of not in the heat of the moment. When arguments drag on with no end in sight things are said that aren't meant...things that can never be taken back. When we get angry the reasonable parts of our brain shut down, and we have fight or flight tunnel vision. If we would just go to bed, let our blood pressure settle down, and return to our normal psychological state, (no one is "normal" during a fight!) issues may get solved a lot faster. Dear Abby may not agree with me, and I am in no way a relationship expert, but I know it is better to solve problems and discuss issues with a calm, clear head...and if it takes a few hours of deep sleep to get that, than so be it. I would rather go to bed angry than get nothing accomplished....plus, who says the best part of a fight, the make up, isn't more enjoyable in the morning?