Women say they want brutal honesty from their partners, but do they really? I usually want to hear only the good, with the bad being more sugar-coated than a Sour Patch Kids candy. But does that make for a healthy relationship? If I ask my boyfriend if my butt looks good in a new pair of jeans, I'm not fishing for compliments I want a genuine answer. Being transparently honest with your partner will bring the two of you so much closer together. Expressing likes, dislikes, fears, and goals will not only bring you closer, but also solidify that you're both on the same life path.
I want to be married one day. I like what a marriage stands for, the constant battle it provides, and endless joy of growing old with someone you love. I used to date a guy who doesn't believe in marriage. I tried to lie to myself, and him, saying that getting married wasn't important to me, and after for years of dating, why was I so surprised that it didn't work out?! If I had been as brutally honest with him as he was with me, I would have saved us both a lot of time.
I am not in a relationship wherein brutal honesty is becoming an everyday part of life. If Jeremy gets hit on, I know about it. If my hair color looks awful, I'm told. It took me a while to get used to this kind of openness, but recently I have started to embrace it. If something bothers me, I let it out instead of bottling it up. If his hair gel smells funky, I certainly tell him.
Relationships are a constant work in progress, and sometimes hearing the truth no matter what, can be painful. Those little white lies partners get so used to telling each other can end up doing more harm than good. Your significant other should be the one you can trust to tell you the good, bad, and ugly...because you'd better believe if my butt doesn't look good in my jeans, I really want to know!
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