Don't Wear Makeup to the Breakup

Relationships are like a drug. They can give you the highest high and make you feel like you're Superman, or, when the come down starts, it can send everything crashing down around you. Breakups are hard on everyone. Whether you initiated it or not, you're still giving up on something you spent so much time and energy on. 

Romantic relationships require such a delicate balance, it's almost like juggling fine china on a tightrope. It's no wonder people are always searching for the keys to a successful relationship. Success is a word that means something different to each person, so I'm not sure opening up a magazine or searching things on Google will do a lot for your individual relationship. Of course, having a good foundation of trust, lust, communication, and mutual respect are keys to successful relationships and can always be improved upon. 

The most important thing to any successful relationship? Drive. You have to wake up everyday knowing that you're going to have to "work" on your relationship and go to bed every night praying that tomorrow you'll still have the passion to do it all over again. "But that's hard work!" you may say, or "real relationships don't take that much effort!" Yes they do. Would you plant a garden and expect it to flourish without you feeding and watering it? I hope not, because if so you're a bit delusional. And if both partners don't commit themselves fully everyday, than it might be time to re-examine. 

Every failed relationship teaches us something new, and helps us to grow for the next one. But in the wake of a breakup, especially an unexpected one, it's hard to believe that. It's hard to It's hard to believe it's really over, hard to believe the person whom you loved isn't who is sitting before you, and hardest to believe that the heaviness in your heart will start to fade away someday. But it will! Beating yourself up about the logistics won't get you anywhere. The Whys and Hows are meaningless after a breakup, what's important is giving yourself some time. 

To love and be loved is one of life's greatest treasures. Sometimes that love isn't forever, but that just means God's preparing you for bigger, better things. And when you find that "forever" kind of love, don't take it for granted, because good things don't come to those who wait, good things come to those who work their asses off for what they love.